I know that my day to day experiences are different than my black coworkers (just like I know my experiences are different than my female coworkers). That doesn’t mean that everyone is racist or sexist. On fact, many of the negative experiences of my non-male non-white coworkers are not due to explicit and/or intentional racism or sexism. Some are due to unconscious biases. Some of the problems are very small, but build up over time because in my industry (software engineering in silicon valley) both women and black people are exceedingly small minorities. Sure, we have some common experiences, but I do not face the same discrimination or instances of micro aggressions as my minority coworkers.

Incidentally, one of the reasons is because they are a minority. group
Someone in a minority group in an organization or society has more interactions with someone in the majority than someone in the minority. So, for example, even if the sexism occurred in the same proportion in men and women in the software industry, women would have more adverse interactions than men.

At the risk of belaboring the point, no one go this thread claiming that the country is racist. Some of us are saying that there are negative outcomes (including being shot by police) that are more likely if you are black.

I am curious how we can have a conversation about how black people are disproportionately pulled over, arrested, convicted and shot by police without talking about us vs them because the group being affected (which includes me) has a very different experience than the one being affected.

I don’t think the point of the article I posted is that blacks are victims. One of the points was that white people have very different experiences of race relations than most black people do. Because of this (and a gew other reasons) conversations about these subjects are inherently unequal.